What does it feel like to have autism?
By the time I suspected myself to be on the spectrum, I was turning 29 and about to get married. I also had (and still have) a stable career.This is a long entry but please make it to the end when I tell you how I coped.What traits did I display?Social awkwardnessI had difficulty fitting in as an adolescent. I couldn’t understand subtle non verbal cues. I kept very much to myself. In middle school- I just went for classes, studied, and came home. Did not mix around.In high school, we more or less had to mix. There were many class and school events and I struggled very hard to fit in.In high school people would also gossip about how this person did something objectionable, or talk about subtle interpersonal politics. A single word, a slight change in tone of voice, a simple gesture could all mean significant things to these other people. I couldn’t get it, for the life of me. I do now.Very rigid adherence to schedules and habitsAs mentioned, I’d go to school and come home. I’d spend my time doing homework or kicking a small ball around my living room. I never thought of breaking that schedule, go hang out with friends etc.Once in college, my friends wanted to go eat dinner after watching a movie. I told them I had to go home and run because that was scheduled. I remember sounding very intense as I said that, and they looked a little unnerved. I think they thought I was weird. (Luckily some of us still keep in touch)Extreme sensitivity to noiseI’m quite ashamed to say I fly into a rage whenever there is significant noise distraction. I couldn’t work in the hospital wards because my phone would keep ringing and that disrupted the tempo of my work. I’d pick up the phone and be nasty to nurses on the other end. Paediatrics posting was a nightmare. I couldn’t work with all these kids screaming. Post night shift, and I’d doze off in the cab, the sound of children crying ringing in my ears.I was absolutely murdered during my first Accident and Emergency posting because I couldn’t handle the multitasking, and verbal instructions flying from left, right, centre.Once I was filling in a death cert at 5am in the morning and the nurses had turned on the radio very loud. I had to tell them to switch it off. I opted for a career in the ambulatory healthcare setting. It’s a more quiet and organised environment. People go to your office instead of you running about. I adapt much, much better in that setting.Narrow interestsI like classical music and some rock music. I was resistant to listening to pop songs during my teenage years and obviously that compounded my social isolation.I did not like computer games like Counterstrike, L4D or DOTA, All my life I’ve only played two computer games repeatedly- Football manager and Age of Empires.I have a profound interest in history, more specifically Chinese and Roman history. I read a lot of Tolkien and was once also into Middle Earth history. Obviously these interests do not help you in a normal social setting. When people ask me about my hobbies, I just say I run.Stereotypical body movements and other quirksMy wife say when I’m angry I make a certain turning movement with my trunk, and I clear my throat loudly.I talk to myself a lot.As a child if I touched something with my left hand, I HAD to touch it with my right hand, in the exact same way, with the exact same force. My mother noticed this in both myself and my father.Also during childhood, I had to smell everything. That kinda freaked my classmates out.I do not display the latter two traits now.ClumsinessI am bloody clumsy. Full stop. My wife gets exasperated when I make a mess in the kitchen or dining room, though I never intended so. I make a poor chef’s assistant and sometimes she has to tell me to leave!What exactly did I experience?Profound isolationI just felt very lonely throughout adolescent years. These feelings still plague me occasionally in adulthood. Although I couldn’t put it in words, I had that perception that no one could understand or relate to me.How did I cope?My family or I never realised I had a problem big enough to seek a therapist. They may have noted some unusual, behaviour, but no official help was sought.I learnt social skillsFortunately, I have average to above average intelligence, so I used it to acquire social skills. Being thrown into the rough and tumble of high school, medical school, the army, the healthcare system- it makes you man up. I learnt the importance of non verbal cues. I learnt that not ALL details need to be accounted for when explaining something. From my wife, I learnt how to respond to the needs of another individual.I have definitely learnt to be professional when dealing with colleagues. And to read between the lines when finding out what exactly they want or need.I learnt how to speak to patients in a more engaging way.These are elementary to neurotypicals, I know. For me, these skills I’ve learnt do NOT remain instinctive. They are coping mechanisms I have acquired cognitively, the same way you learn biology or astronomy.However I still remain very sensitive to noise.I learnt to break my habitsWhen you follow a routine, you fall into a rut. Sometimes, I’d force myself to go to another restaurant, or watch another movie. Or vary my workout routine. In the past, all I’d do was to jog, jog, jog. Now I have taken on high intensity interval training (HIIT) and weights training.I’ve learnt how to use credit cards, without chalking up any debt of course.I get along fine with my current colleagues, much better than I did with my peers many years ago. I’d spot a group of friends and join in a conversation. I’d go for lunch with colleagues whenever the time affords it. These are things I’d never imagine myself doing 10 years ago.In retrospect, I probably had only a mild form of autism, seeing that I developed adequate coping mechanisms without seeing any therapist. I think life would be much tougher for those with a more severe form, or with intellectual disability.
I’m being sued and I’m representing myself in court. How do I fill out the form called “answer to complaint”?
You can represent yourself. Each form is different per state or county but generally an answer is simply a written document which presents a synopsis of your story to the court. The answer is not your defense, just written notice to the court that you intend to contest the suit. The blank forms are available at the court clerk’s office and are pretty much self explanatoryThere will be a space calling for the signature of an attorney. You should sign your name on the space and write the words “Pro se” after your signature. This lets the court know you are acting as your own attorney.
What did you read today that made you sad?
I was going through the newspaper and read this article in TOI.Vijaypat Singhania says son Gautam has reduced him to hand-to-mouth life.One of the country's richest men, who spent more than two decades dressing up the Indian male, is now broke, and by his own admission is living a "hand-to-mouth" existence. And he blames only one person for this - his son.Dr Vijaypat Singhania, who built Raymond Ltd into one of the largest apparel brands in the country before handing over the business to his son Gautam, is today a bitter man residing in a rented row house in south Mumbai's upscale Grand Paradi society.Source: Vijaypat Singhania says son Gautam has reduced him to hand-to-mouth life - Times of IndiaWell looks like the news is true though we know just once side of the story. But still I feel very disheartening and sad. A father does so much for his kids and sons just dont take care of their aging father. I cannot even image how can a child can do something like this.Reading the article made me think that when this is happening in such a rich family then it may be happening almost everywhere.I don’t understand that why the kids dont understand that what goes around comes around. So in future their own kids would do the same thing.
What's the most effective way to stop SEM brand-jacking on Bing and Google beyond going online to formally fill out a complaint?
I had experience with Bing and Google stopping our brand name usage in competitor's ads, in both cases I used online form to contact Bing and Google ad approval teams. The responses from Bing and Google reps were really fast, it took less than 2 business days.Another solution is to create a special group of keywords and ads that contain your brand name and to bid higher than average on these keywords. So when a person searches for your brand product, the first thing that pops up is your ad. Thus, you can supersede your competitors.Besides, if you have resellers or affiliates, you can set special rules for them and forbid online advertising on brand keywords.
Do military members have to pay any fee for leave or fiancee forms?
NOOOOOOO. You are talking to a military romance scammer. I received an email from the US Army that directly answers your question that is pasted below please keep reading.I believe you are the victim of a military Romance Scam whereas the person you are talking to is a foreign national posing as an American Soldier claiming to be stationed overseas on a peacekeeping mission. That's the key to the scam they always claim to be on a peacekeeping mission.Part of their scam is saying that they have no access to their money that their mission is highly dangerous.If your boyfriend girlfriend/future husband/wife is asking you to do the following or has exhibited this behavior, it is a most likely a scam:Moves to private messaging site immediately after meeting you on Facebook or SnapChat or Instagram or some dating or social media site. Often times they delete the site you met them on right after they asked you to move to a more private messaging siteProfesses love to you very quickly & seems to quote poems and song lyrics along with using their own sort of broken language, as they profess their love and devotion quickly. They also showed concern for your health and love for your family.Promises marriage as soon as he/she gets to state for leave that they asked you to pay for.They Requests money (wire transfers) and Amazon, iTune ,Verizon, etc gift cards, for medicine, religious practices, and leaves to come home, internet access, complete job assignments, help sick friend, get him out of trouble, or anything that sounds fishy.The military does provide all the soldier needs including food medical Care and transportation for leave. Trust me, I lived it, you are probably being scammed. I am just trying to show you examples that you are most likely being connned.Below is an email response I received after I sent an inquiry to the US government when I discovered I was scammed. I received this wonderful response back with lots of useful links on how to find and report your scammer. And how to learn more about Romance Scams.Right now you can also copy the picture he gave you and do a google image search and you will hopefully see the pictures of the real person he is impersonating. this doesn't always work and take some digging. if you find the real person you can direct message them and alert them that their image is being used for scamming.Good Luck to you and I'm sorry this may be happening to you. please continue reading the government response I received below it's very informative. You have contacted an email that is monitored by the U.S. Army Criminal Investigation Command. Unfortunately, this is a common concern. We assure you there is never any reason to send money to anyone claiming to be a Soldier online. If you have only spoken with this person online, it is likely they are not a U.S. Soldier at all. If this is a suspected imposter social media profile, we urge you to report it to that platform as soon as possible. Please continue reading for more resources and answers to other frequently asked questions: How to report an imposter Facebook profile: Caution-https://www.facebook.com/help/16... Caution-https://www.facebook.com/help/16... Answers to frequently asked questions: - Soldiers and their loved ones are not charged money so that the Soldier can go on leave. - Soldiers are not charged money for secure communications or leave. - Soldiers do not need permission to get married. - Soldiers emails are in this format: email@example.com Caution-mailto: firstname.lastname@example.org anything ending in .us or .com is not an official email account. - Soldiers have medical insurance, which pays for their medical costs when treated at civilian health care facilities worldwide – family and friends do not need to pay their medical expenses. - Military aircraft are not used to transport Privately Owned Vehicles. - Army financial offices are not used to help Soldiers buy or sell items of any kind. - Soldiers deployed to Combat Zones do not need to solicit money from the public to feed or house themselves or their troops. - Deployed Soldiers do not find large unclaimed sums of money and need your help to get that money out of the country. Anyone who tells you one of the above-listed conditions/circumstances is true is likely posing as a Soldier and trying to steal money from you. We would urge you to immediately cease all contact with this individual. For more information on avoiding online scams and to report this crime, please see the following sites and articles: This article may help clarify some of the tricks social media scammers try to use to take advantage of people: Caution-https://www.army.mil/article/61432/ Caution-https://www.army.mil/article/61432/ CID advises vigilance against 'romance scams,' scammers impersonating Soldiers Caution-https://www.army.mil/article/180749 Caution-https://www.army.mil/article/180749 FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center: Caution-http://www.ic3.gov/default.aspx Caution-http://www.ic3.gov/default.aspx U.S. Army investigators warn public against romance scams: Caution-https://www.army.mil/article/130... Caution-https://www.army.mil/article/130... DOD warns troops, families to be cybercrime smart -Caution-http://www.army.mil/article/1450... Caution-http://www.army.mil/article/1450... Use caution with social networking Caution-https://www.army.mil/article/146... Caution-https://www.army.mil/article/146... Please see our frequently asked questions section under scams and legal issues. Caution-http://www.army.mil/faq/ Caution-http://www.army.mil/faq/ or visit Caution-http://www.cid.army.mil/ Caution-http://www.cid.army.mil/ . The challenge with most scams is determining if an individual is a legitimate member of the US Army. Based on the Privacy Act of 1974, we cannot provide this information. If concerned about a scam you may contact the Better Business Bureau (if it involves a solicitation for money), or local law enforcement. If you're involved in a Facebook or dating site scam, you are free to contact us direct, (571) 305-4056. If you have a social security number, you can find information about Soldiers online at Caution-https://www.dmdc.osd.mil/appj/sc... Caution-https://www.dmdc.osd.mil/appj/sc... . While this is a free search, it does not help you locate a retiree, but it can tell you if the Soldier is active duty or not. If more information is needed such as current duty station or location, you can contact the Commander Soldier's Records Data Center (SRDC) by phone or mail and they will help you locate individuals on active duty only, not retirees. There is a fee of $3.50 for businesses to use this service. The check or money order must be made out to the U.S. Treasury. It is not refundable. The address is: Commander Soldier's Records Data Center (SRDC) 8899 East 56th Street Indianapolis, IN 46249-5301 Phone: 1-866-771-6357 In addition, it is not possible to remove social networking site profiles without legitimate proof of identity theft or a scam. If you suspect fraud on this site, take a screenshot of any advances for money or impersonations and report the account on the social networking platform immediately. Please submit all information you have on this incident to Caution-www.ic3.gov Caution-http://www.ic3.gov (FBI website, Internet Criminal Complaint Center), immediately stop contact with the scammer (you are potentially providing them more information which can be used to scam you), and learn how to protect yourself against these scams at Caution-http://www.ftc.gov Caution-http://www.ftc.gov (Federal Trade Commission's website)
How can I fill out Google's intern host matching form to optimize my chances of receiving a match?
I was selected for a summer internship 2016.I tried to be very open while filling the preference form: I choose many products as my favorite products and I said I'm open about the team I want to join.I even was very open in the location and start date to get host matching interviews (I negotiated the start date in the interview until both me and my host were happy.) You could ask your recruiter to review your form (there are very cool and could help you a lot since they have a bigger experience).Do a search on the potential team.Before the interviews, try to find smart question that you are going to ask for the potential host (do a search on the team to find nice and deep questions to impress your host). Prepare well your resume.You are very likely not going to get algorithm/data structure questions like in the first round. It's going to be just some friendly chat if you are lucky. If your potential team is working on something like machine learning, expect that they are going to ask you questions about machine learning, courses related to machine learning you have and relevant experience (projects, internship). Of course you have to study that before the interview. Take as long time as you need if you feel rusty. It takes some time to get ready for the host matching (it's less than the technical interview) but it's worth it of course.
How do I fill out the form of DU CIC? I couldn't find the link to fill out the form.
Just register on the admission portal and during registration you will get an option for the entrance based course. Just register there. There is no separate form for DU CIC.